Today's crazy mom story comes from a dear friend of mine. I have many fond memories of staying up late discussing our lives together. From kids to husbands to everything in between. I miss her living down the street and sharing these late night comforting gab sessions together.
Enough about us. Here's her story!
Enough about us. Here's her story!
About a year ago, Kasey (my hot husband) and I had the opportunity to talk to an older gentleman who has been married to his "sweetheart"(his words) for over 45 years. I asked what their secret was to make their marriage work- his reply was simple. He turned and asked Kasey, "do you still court your wife?" He then went on to explain to us that our family started as the two of us and that we will have years of craziness but that we need to make 'us' a priority because in 25 years when our last baby moves out of the house it will, then again, be just the two of us.
Anyone that knows me will know that I'm a stew-er. Anything there is to worry about or fuss over, I will. I'll analyze every conversation for hours after having them, always thinking of the perfect response at 1:00 in the morning.
I don't do anything half way. If I say that I'm going to do something, you better believe it will be, as my husband tells me, over the top.
So when it comes to my kids, I'm the same way. Birthday parties, birthday cakes, baby blessings, even down to my girls pedicures- they're crazy. Or I'm crazy- take your pick! I will loose sleep just to get every last detail perfect. And I LOVE it!
But like I said, I'm a stew-er. So this question got some late night thinking! I came to the conclusion that I go overboard for my kids, but when was the last time I put that much focus and attention on my husband. And then something miraculous happened. I opened my eyes! Here is a guy that when I'm up to my ears in Dora, diapers, and drama, he steps in. If dinner isn't quite ready when he gets home after 10 long hours at work, he cooks it! (Better than me if I might add!!) He does still court me, just in a different way than he used to.
The most amazing thing is, is that I've seen a change in me. In our marriage. In him. If I don't bark at him the second he walks in the door (because lets be honest, I've done my fair share and then some of that!) he isn't a total grouch! And trust me with three kids under 5 we have enough grouchiness, crying and screaming to last us 25 years. And when I'm happy, my kids are happy and HE is happy. Funny how that works, huh?
Now I'm not saying that we have a perfect marriage because we are far from that. It is a process that we are both on board to work on and still working on.
But with that being said, it's nice to know that when your daughter drops HER shorts in the middle of the park to tinkle or when your five year old walks up to a lady in a tube dress and asks if she forgot to put on her pants that morning or if you forget to button up your shirt after nursing your baby in church (all of which where incredibly embarrassing) that someone has your back.
So to answer that sweet mans question.
Yes! My husband still courts me. It's just sometimes harder to realize and actually see when flowers come in the form of 10 minutes of peace and quite. I just wish I would have realized it sooner instead of 10 years later.
Yes! My husband still courts me. It's just sometimes harder to realize and actually see when flowers come in the form of 10 minutes of peace and quite. I just wish I would have realized it sooner instead of 10 years later.
So here is a challenge, try it for say....... two weeks, look for the good instead of focusing on the bad and just see what happens! What could it hurt, right?!?!
Believe it or not, it helped not being up to my ears in Dora, diapers and drama! Perhaps just up to my knees instead!
Thank you Holly for helping me open my eyes and see that my husband does still court me as well. And he does an amazing job at it, too!
I accept her challenge! I hope you will too! Let us know how your two weeks goes.
Thank you Holly for helping me open my eyes and see that my husband does still court me as well. And he does an amazing job at it, too!
I accept her challenge! I hope you will too! Let us know how your two weeks goes.
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